So it’s Man Kave Monday and I rarely chime in on the blogging side of things but now is as good a time as any to start. So much estrogen goin’zon round here! The kings need a place to “relate, relax,release” too.
A place to be really real about how we feel.
I wanna say the Queens will just hear us out and observe the dialogue but….. We’ll see, they just might.
So yeah… I used to get a lot of (unwarranted) BS about how we run things over here. If you’re just tuning in- I work, she stays home and does everything else. She made the choice in the first place and I fully agreed.
The naggers didn’t really change my views on how we do things because :
A. It always came from men who were miserable in their marriage and
B. Who cares how they feel?!
But really, doing these videos and talking to people in our age range we always get asked the whys and how’s of a one-income, kinda old school lifestyle.
It seems natural to us but I know I didn’t see it growing up and most other people our age didn’t either so today I’m at least gonna answer the “why”. I’ll let her answer the how cuz if you ask me it’s some kinda woman magic how she makes it all work.
I think she shared a few of her secrets in this video but I know that’s not the whole low down.
So here’s a few of what I think are some damn good reasons why I’d rather my wife stay home and I think most men in my shoes can agree!
5 Damn Good Reasons I’d Rather My Wife Stay Home
1. When she’s stressed, WE stressed!
Let’s be real fellas, nobody likes to go home to a raging bull at the end of the day! Dealing with a boss, coworkers, all kindsa outside pressure AND coming home to deal with house and kids is a lot for any woman to handle. While we can brush it off and leave that stress where it’s at, women have a harder time doing that.
Now don’t get me wrong, staying home with the kids all day is stressful too but it’s a different kind of stress. The kind that makes her fall into my arms when I walk through the door- instead of shooting daggers at me with her eyes.
I like feeling like I can solve a her problems at the end of the day. Isn’t that what we’re there for?
2. I’m the only man she submits to
It might sound chauvinistic but trust me it’s not. Even she says it.
You just never know who these bosses are and how they’re treating your woman all day. I know how I treat her and the standard I live up to. In the work world, women really have to take what’s given, HOW it’s given.
Some don’t complain because they’re getting paid for it but…. I know how I want my wife to be treated and I don’t like thinking that some man can treat her however he wants to because he’s signing her checks.
My queen is my Queen….and that’s just the bottom line.
3. It’s my duty to protect her
This kinda builds on the last point. When I know she’s safe at home I know she and our kids are protected. Not only from the unforeseen but from the foolery that goes on at work and school.
So let’s just say none of her coworkers goes postal and comes to shoot the place up…. None of their classmates decide to be Rambo…. You still have to consider that greasy dude that she said “hi” to one time and he won’t leave her alone.
I’ve always been a peaceful man and I like to keep it that way.
4. Raising up Royalty
Not to sound high and mighty cuz y’all know we love the simple life. But you gotta understand, these days, simplicity is NOT the norm. We know we’re walking different than most of society and we’re kinda proud of it.
On top of that, we’re raising our kids differently. Some people wanna blend in. They want their kids to blend in too… But kids these days give me the heebie-jeebies and I DO NOT want to get the heebie-jeebies from my own kids.
That being said, we’re raising them up to a higher standard. In order to do that, at least ONE of us gotta be in their business at all times. Leave it to mama to be that one cuz women are just like that.
Besides, have y’all seen the curriculum in these schools nowadays?!! We’ll pass!!
…….And last but certainly not least
5. She doesn’t want to work outside the house
My wife is literally one of the hardest working women I’ve ever known. And I’m not just saying that cuz she’s mine either! Sometimes I stay up after she goes to sleep just to check and see if she’s battery operated.
She does not stop! But- before we got married she let me know that she just did not want to be a part of the workforce.
After seeing my mom struggle to work and take care of me, with very little help from my dad, I knew I didn’t want that for my wife. I took it as a privilege that a woman would trust me to work and take care of her. It made me have to step my game up. And honestly, it felt good.
Before I met her I prayed that God would make me the man He wanted me to be, and being the sole provider is a big part of that.
Now I’m grateful she doesn’t just sit on her butt all day. I don’t think she could if she tried. She runs her jewelry business, homeschool the kids, cleans, cooks, and handles the ins and outs of our 3 other businesses… But that’s what she chooses to do.
It feels good, as a man, to know I can give her that choice.
No I don’t make a six figure income but like I said… Our lifestyle gives her space to make magic happen!