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On moving away from my “masculine”
"She's so angry!" "She's too aggressive" "She's so loud" At some point, every woman of color has heard this, either about herself or about another woman of color. Our first instinct is usually to turn up our noses, huff in annoyance, and give a mean side eye. I...
#EssenceFest2017 Black Owned Business Guide: A Native’s Guide to New Orleans Black Owned Businesses
There’s nothing quite like the beauty of the first weekend of July in New Orleans. The convergence of music, soul, and beautiful brown folks is not to be missed! Last year I shared a list of local BOB’s (black-owned businesses) to support while enjoying the Essence...
Losing myself in motherhood did not make me a better mother
Losing Myself in Motherhood DID NOT Make Me a Better Mother 5 years ago I was the epitome of a tired mama. I lived in my bonnet, my poor curls were dry and dusty, and my lint covered robe was my uniform. I was a brand new, stay-at-home mama of two,...
7 Things to #DiddyCrop Out of Your Life Today
7 Things to #DiddyCrop Out of Your Life Today Y’all!!! The #KingOfShade crown is resting squarely upon the head of Uncle Puff today! In case you missed it, Mr. Combs has the internet stirred up after cropping out the Jenner sisters in a photo packed with high...
5 Reasons Why You Should Thank Your Ex
5 Reasons Why You Should Thank Your Ex Black love and relationships are such a slippery subject nowadays. If you choose to inject yourself in the conversation (I do it all the time) – you might as well expect some hurt soul to come for your edges. I try to always...
3 Keys to Moving Forward When You Feel Stuck
3 Keys to Moving Forward When You Feel Stuck I’m always listening. It’s how I keep up with what’s most important to the women and families we serve. On elf the most talked about struggles amongst women is the feeling of being “stuck”. Whether you feel stuck in...
My Spring Cleaning Schedule – Passover Edition
Spring is here and I’m soooo excited! I don’t know if it ever really wasn’t spring this year in New Orleans, but now the flowers are fragranced, new seedlings are popping up, and it's time to get my spring cleaning schedule together. The flies are back into action too...
10 Rules for Raising a Successful Black Family
10 Rules for Raising a Successful Black Family Every family is different. There’s no denying that we all have different methods, modalities, and madness when it comes to raising our ideas of a thriving black family. Even though we’re all different, there are still...
Good Girlfriends are Golden. Here’s why…
Whatever happened to calling on your girlfriend and having hour long girl talk sessions to celebrate your wins and rethink your losses? The advent of social media built an illusionary bridge between watching what we’re doing and knowing how we’re doing. There...
9 Spring Crops for my Garden, the Market …and my belly
Did winter ever even happen? Down here in the Mississippi delta it seems like we’ve been in some weird fall/spring twilight zone with a few cold fronts here and there. I’m not complaining at all. If there’s one thing I love it’s the hot weather so while I’m...
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Last night I coached my Feminine Success School ladies on Mastering the Art of Letting Go.
This picture reminds me of how many things I’ve had to let go of in order to hold and keep the life that I really wanted.
I had to truly process and let go of my family of origin pain.
I had to dig up and root out my conscious and unconscious daddy AND mommy issues so that I could allow my husband to cover me.
I had to let go of my fear of “becoming my mother” so that I could become the mom I wanted to be.
I especially had to let go of the status who of what a homemaker and “good” wife looked like so that I could fully live in my purpose.
One thing I always tell my ladies is that nature hates a vacuum. We always hear “let it go”, but whatever you let go you need to intentionally replace or those old, outgrown, possibly toxic things (habits, hurts, etc) will come right back...and bring a few unwelcome friends.
What’s also interesting mamas, is that what we don’t heal and release will find its way down our lineage into our children and children’s children.
Holding on to what is no longer healthy in your life is getting in the way of receiving what you know you deserve, and ALSO blocking blessings you can’t see.
A question that healed me and opened my mind and heart to let go was: “Who would you be without [insert thought/thing you’re holding on to]?”](https://nspiyahdlife.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png)
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