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May 29, 2017 black family life

Losing myself in motherhood did not make me a better mother

Losing Myself in Motherhood DID NOT Make Me a Better Mother

5 years ago I was the epitome of a tired mama. I lived in my bonnet, my poor curls were dry and dusty, and my lint covered robe was my uniform.

I was a brand new, stay-at-home mama of two, living on one income, completely overwhelmed. I was tired and frustrated every day and crying every night – and I knew something had to give.

Like most women I knew – my grandmother, aunts, mother-in-law – I thought there was some high and noble calling to be found in losing my entire identity in being a wife and mother. I thought someone would show up with an award for Most Invested Mom because I was willing to be a martyr to my true self and bury my dreams in my children and husband – wrong, wrong & WRONG!

While I was losing myself in being Mom of the Year I was actually half-assing my whole life. I was cooking meals from scratch, making organic baby food, cloth diapering, and had hubby’s work clothes ironed every morning. Now, I loved (and still love) doing all of those things. But doing all those things without taking time to nurture myself, as a woman, did not make me a better mother or wife.

What it did make me was resentful. Being a great mom and wife was something that I’d always dreamed of but the way I was going about it had me in the fast lane to hating my life, having a perpetual side-eye for my husband, and being constantly frustrated with my children.

What I’d been taught, “Mothers don’t have a life anymore, everything is for your children now”, was running me into the ground.

I knew something had to change and FAST. First, I needed to carve out time for myself. No matter what I knew that I had to start refilling my cup if I wanted to continue to pour into my family.

I also knew that even though I had chosen the stay-at-home mom life, I needed to create something outside of my family that I could use to nurture my gifts, skills, and talents. As much as I’d looked forward to being a “kept woman” (yep, I’m quite alright with admitting that), once I was in those shoes I was bored af, and I wanted to contribute to our family’s future.

That was the beginning of what you see today. Taking more time to nurture me gave me more time to nurture my family. It also gave me more joy to share, more peace to pass along, and more seeds to sow into the people I love the most.

That’s why I’m so passionate about helping women heal – big pains and small, nagging aches – because when a woman can show up as her best self she can give her best to everything else.

Do you feel like you’ve lost yourself? What do you need to get back to you?

October 10, 2016 Essence of Womanhood

…On Letting Go of “Control”

…On Letting Go of Control

There’s this crazy thing about being a woman that makes us feel the need to take on http://gygaia.org/voices/page/2/ every.thing.

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Not only do we take it all on, we get annoyed when others (i.e. husbands), don’t automatically lighten the load. I’ve found myself grabbing the heaviest thing when h
‘s right downstairs and willing, then giving the side eye when he offers to take whatever said heavy-item is, off my hands.

I don’t know what they call that but I do know that it has wreaked all ki
nds of havoc on my sanity.

Lately, I’ve been working on letting go of the reigns. From sending the children to the community to be schooled, to letting hubz cook dinner every once in a while. I’ve been giving up the idea that if I’m not doing it all, I’m not doing enough.

It’s a toxic way to think and actually slows down productivity.

What I found was that by spreading myself so thin I was actually half-assing everything. I was also pushing my husband away by holding myself, and him, to damn near impossible standards.

follow site I’m learning that everything will get done. That taking a break doesn’t make me (or him) lazy, and that if we’re seeking the Kingdom first, we should “be anxious for nothing”.

Trying to control everything was essentially saying that I didn’t trust God’s timing or my own life’s process.

This society can definitely make you feel like it all needs to be done, right now. Loosening the strngle hold of “ambition” and allowing your life to unfold in a divine way is a revolutionary act.

How are you practicing more “flow” in your daily life?

May 26, 2016 Essence of Womanhood

#WifeLife101: 10 things to do right now instead of arguing

10 Things to do Right Now, instead of arguing

I know girl.

He did it again. Stayed out late and didn’t call, or just didn’t take the trash out for the 1,356th time and you are pissed. Our men have so much on their minds. Taking care and providing for families is work. And no, I’m not justifying the forgetfulness.

It’s cool to be upset. I know because I’m upset right now.

I’m stopping myself from throwing a doggone shoe. But I’m stopping myself is the point.

I keep seeing all these memes “Marriage is a “sleepover with your best friend” every night. NO. It is not. And if it was, could you imagine that? I can. I remember staying at my best friends house a whole week as a kid. By day 3 we were at each other’s hat. So marriage is like a sleepover, except I didn’t have to pick up my bff’s socks in the middle of “being mad”.

[tweetthis display_mode=”box”]So marriage is like a sleepover, except I didn’t have to pick up my bff’s socks in the middle of “being mad”.[/tweetthis]

People ask us all the time how we handle arguing. We really don’t. (Yes, there are couples out here.) Trust me, we disagree. Instead of arguing, we go silent on each other or go off on our own. We do eventually hash it out but we’ve figured out how to handle it humanely. I mean, we do have to live together after the tension subsides.

As a woman, it can be especially difficult for me to swallow my words. I always want to be the “finisher”. This society teaches us, “can’t nobody tell me nothing”, and “I’m a grown woman!”. But that’s not really conducive for marriage. Not a good one at least.

God hasn’t called us to nagging and nastiness as wives, either. This world can be tough enough, so it’s good when we’re good to each other. Im glad I’ve figured out some clever ways to check my spirit when I’m feeling like that. Until I can approach the situation humbly and speak my grievances like I’m talking to a god of this earth…or at least another human.

[tweetthis twitter_handles=”@theNspiyahdLife” hidden_hashtags=”#Nspiyahd” display_mode=”box”]#WifeLife101:This world is tough enough. It’s good when we’re good to each other[/tweetthis]

10 Things to do when you’d rather argue.

Vacuum – I’m sure the feminists will call me sexist for this suggestion but I promise I’m not. It’s all about strengthening our femininity. Our homes are our biggest reflection of us, and the floors can always stand to be cleaned. Not only does vacuuming freshen the air in your home. It lightens the energy. The monotony of walking back in forth with the vacuum doing all of the work will give you time to get into your thoughts and figure out why you’re really upset. Take the time to give your floors a good clean when you need to redirect some of that energy and you’ll be glad you did long after the argument is gone.

Take a long walk – there’s nothing like fresh air to bring you back to a peaceful place. Walking is also great for keeping them legs toned too!
Take a cold shower – I know, I sound like somebody’s mama. I’m forreal though! Cold showers are really good for your skin! This one aint even about him! “It’s the safest waay!” Lol. (Erykah voice) Really, cold showers have so many healing benefits for our bodies. I love my hot-hot water too much to go strictly cold, but I transition from “dark warm” to warm to “luke cold” but I’m telling you. Your skin will thank you for it. If you’re feeling like being brave, bring some fine ground pink salt (or plain sea salt) into the shower for a spiritual cleanse.
Go do your toes – Skipping pedicure visits is great for when you’re feeling unappreciated in your house. It gives you a perfect opportunity to pamper yourself – yourself. It’s cool to have someone else do it but there’s nothing like touching your own skin. Grooming your own self and reminding yourself how much you care about you. Our society is so disconnected, most of us even neglect to connect with ourselves. Instead of arguing, take that time to get back in tune with you.

[tweetthis display_mode=”box”]Our society is so disconnected, most of us even neglect to connect with ourselves.[/tweetthis]

Speaking of getting in tune, meditate. Next time you’re feeling like you want to scream, find a quiet place and go there. Just sit a while and listen to your spirit speak. What is she screaming for? What does your soul want? Is it upright? Is it pleasing to the Most High? Take the time to clear out your mind of any expectations that are not of Him and just breathe.
Write in a journal. It can be a great way to get your emotions out so that when you do go to speak to your husband you’ll have a list of problems with actionable solutions you’ve thought through in the ink wash. Men are logistical. (Is that a word?) They hear us better when we’re speaking from logic and strategy rather than emotions or feelings. Not to say that we shouldn’t feel, but we should process those feelings in the feminine and bring the problem into the masculine, so they can solve them.
Go for a jog. This one can be so helpful in releasing excess hormones and stress toxins. Not only will it give you time to think instead of arguing, while pounding the pavement, you’ll be burning calories and working up an appetite as well.

Which brings me to my next tip. Try out a new recipe instead of arguing with your man. I always say that baking bread is the best stress relief in the kitchen. Like jogging, the kneading process gives you something to physically exert some energy on. A good 10 minute kneading session will give you some super soft bread too! Don’t know how? Check out my Bread Tutorial video HERE

Create something. I’m known for getting at the sewing machine or wrapping up a stone when I’m feeling frustrated. When I’m hurt I’ll pull out pen and paper and write a poem or a song. Whatever it is that brings your soul joy, do that. Sewing, making music, continuing your manuscript, branding for your business. Hustles and hobbies help us feel accomplished and less dependent on our men to not make mistakes. Which in turn gives us less reasons to argue.

[tweetthis display_mode=”box”]Hustles and hobbies help us feel accomplished and less dependent on our men to not make mistakes.[/tweetthis]

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There’s a thousand other productive things that can be done instead of arguing. (and a few things not to do. Like call your single girlfriends but that’s another post)

They say black wives are angry, but really, we’re the ones with the most at stake if our men fail. I get it. There’s a way to communicate exactly what we need from them, firmly without upsetting the balance. Sometimes, wee have to sit down or step back to get to that.

Our whole society is really built against men. We’ve been in a matriarchy. Look at the education system; boys are always in trouble and get lower grades – across racial lines.

Our duty is to help our boys and men overcome that and become better. That’s not always easy, and we get humbled in the process.

Look at our ancestoral women. They built kingdoms in humility, honor and love. They were soft, submissive and strong.

They raised families, owned businesses, and managed a house full of servants and all our forefathers’ wealth. You think they had time to be arguing and carrying on?

What are some things you do in your marriage instead of arguing?

April 26, 2016 black family life

#LEMONADE : Three Messages You Probably Missed

I think I speak for the entire internet when I say, my edges are officially SNATCHED and have retired to the land of baby hair and afros! I’m not a member of the Beehive. I turned in my credentials years ago, but as an artist and creator, I’ve continued to enjoy watching as Bey expands our imaginations and pushes the envelope.

I can admit that, what Beyonce stands for – from a public perspective – I don’t. I’m not a supporter of the “single ladies” movement, the man bashing movement or the feminist movement. I do, however, recognize greatness, talent and discipline. I tend to keep my ear to the ground when it comes to what’s stirring up black women in America; so I also recognize when America’s black sweetheart, goes rouge!

Based on her most recent, overt cries of “I am Black” and “I will not take the oppression of my people lying down”, I had to see what “Lemonade” was hitting for. My oh MY was it a hit! All that said, I think that by and large, the message was missed.

It’s too easy to say that Bey made an entire album to out her man for his cheating ways. No, no, no! (Kendrick voice) That’d be too obvious! Then to bring it to a close with Jay-Z lovingly caressing her over sentimental family video footage? I’m not buying it.

Look a little deeper, and you’ll see what is probably the greatest power move ANY power couple has ever made unfolding before our eyes.

She told the mainstream where they could kiss…

Let’s take it back to Kanye’s VMAs outburst…follow me here.

I’m Beyonce, the metaphoric “bride” of the mainstream music industry. Tonight, the night when my “groom” acknowledges me before the world…he gives my props to “Becky with the good hair”. GASP! I’m still Beyonce, my branded image is squeaky clean, so where I would like to run through the streets with “hot sauce in my bag” smashing all the windows in valet parking, I keep my cool.

I hold my peace when I must pinch, cinch, bleach and belittle to get the same accolades and endorsements “Becky with the good hair” gets for just being herself.

..and yet, it’s not enough. Becky wins again.

The backlash after her Superbowl performance let the world know that in the eyes of America, Beyonce, and black women, can be anything we want to be, except unapologetically black. No, not that!

She yelled the war cry for all the beautiful sisters who came before and who are to come.

Our grandmothers who had to wear the dresses of the misses but the shame of the mistress. Our mothers who wore the skin and scalp of the mainstream image of beauty…and still weren’t “perfect” enough… Now we, still stuck under these curses, learning daily how to break free from the images and BE the natural standard of beauty that we’ve always been.

I gathered this from the visuals she gave us after the whole “let me wear her skin” piece. She showed up and showed out in bleached white skin with bleach blond tresses.

Nuff Said!

Generational Curses? Break Free!

Bey gave us history, presence and shed light on how to move forward into the future. TOGETHER.

Several times in “Lemonade” she called upon her grandmothers, and other grandmothers for answers. It was heart warming to see New Orleans’ own Leah Chase being honored with a cameo. She is an elder of great wisdom and much cherished here in our city.

What stood out to me the most during the spoken parts of Lemonade was not the seeming “calling out” of “low down” men, it was the pain. The deep, ancestral pain that screamed WHY?! Why did you go through this hurt grandmama? Mama? Me? What did we do to contribute to the pain and how can we stop these pains from recurring? Beyond the pain we’ve shared with black men, what about the pain we’ve endured from other men?

She filled us up with images of black love and family. Black men dancing in the streets and smiling. Unity. Community and closing the breach – together. Did you catch it?

She defined the power of a bomba$$ WIFE!

“Lemonade” was a Tidal exclusive. Prince’s music? Tidal exclusive. Kanye’s latest release? Tidal exclusive.

Jay-Z and Beyonce have essentially raised two middle fingers to the “industry” and said “what you won’t give us, we will MAKE”. That message is resounding throughout America and the diaspora at large right now…and it’s POWERFUL.

It’s even more powerful that in the midst of the mainstream tearing the business side of Jay-Z’s new music-streaming service apart, Bey is leveraging her star power to keep her husband’s business relevant, and remind us all why black power families are necessary.

What messages did you get from Beyonce’s visual album “Lemonade”?

April 11, 2016 black family life

#TheMarriageRules: Have Each Other’s Back! {PLUS} 3 Ways to Keep your Dreams Alive, Together

So you got married. Then you realized that it’s more than just a white dress and a night filled with 90’s R&B shared with 200 of your closest friends and family…or a runaway wedding in Vegas. Yep, if you’ve been married for any length of time, you’ve probably noticed that life starts coming at you 100 mph as soon as you say “I Do”. It’s like all the forces in the universe say “Oh, you do?”

In our first year of marriage my husband lost his job, twice. There was a shooting in our old neighborhood that left a bullet hole in our front door and another through the kitchen wall, and we topped that year off with an unassisted home birth. To say it was a whirlwind would be an understatement, but we got through it.

Today, joblessness is plaguing MANY. At the same time, our generation’s need to find our true purposes is ever increasing and, thankfully, so are marriages.

But what do you do when you’re newly hitched and the burdens of life become a lot to bear? What do you do when your friends, family and your social media groups are telling you to “ditch that loser” because your spouse has fallen on hard times?

We’ve been there. In marriage, it’s a never ending rollercoaster of ups and downs, and surprisingly, most of them come from OUTSIDE the marriage. The number one rule to sticking it out is having each others’ back.

This is three things we do daily to keep our vision steady and keep our dreams alive.

Cheer each other on

Whether you’re dreaming of opening a law practice together or just trying to get through the next week, life will try you both. Together, and separately. Even in the best of marriages, you never truly know what your spouse is dealing with inside. Good team players know how to cheer each other to the next big victory, and also, how to encourage each other through the losses.

Cut the world off

From social media to mainstream media, from friends to in-laws, negative opinions about marriage, your spouse, and living out your dreams together are coming at us left and right. Not only do we need to know how to field them when they come unexpectedly, we have to actively work to eliminate the ones we already encounter.

One of the best things we did for our marriage early on was to get rid of our TV’s. Yep, all of them. That may be extreme for some others but we knew where we wanted to take our family and how the media works against that. Consider the images and opinions you hear on a regular basis about black families and relationships. Are they helpful or hurtful?
Hold each other accountable

At the end of the day, married or not, trials and tests will come. Naysayers, or “haters” ain’t going nowhere. There will always be something, or someone, trying to prove to you that you “can’t” and your job is to prove that you can. Let the challenges and doubt fuel you to be more disciplined in your work, more committed to your goals and more eager to push each other to greatness. Hold yourself and your loved one to a standard of excellence so that your walk always matches your words and eventually your fruits works will speak loud enough for the both of you.

Focus on the WIN. The thing about teams is, you can only win if you play well together.

Believe in your spouse’s big dreams and the little steps to get there will be so much easier.

Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.

April 6, 2016 black family life

#WifeLife101: 5 Ways to get out of the No Sex Zone

I’m sure this meme isn’t funny to a lot of brothers who are living in the no sex zone, but as a wife and mom, I GET IT!

This melanated love thing is delicious; and building black families is where it’s at these days. But those love vibes don’t always translate in the bedroom after a busy day running after babies and making mountains move.

We’re working, running businesses, raising children and making a home. The ish gets exhausting! So, that meme is exactly how we feel when our men show up with “the big cup” waiting to be filled from the little bit we have left over.

I got a good laugh out of it, but I remember a few years ago when I was creating my own “no-sex zone” in my marriage. I’d just had baby number 2 and I. Was. Tired! Frustrated and overstretched with two under three. Not to mention I felt unattractive and a mess. Y’all know how our bodies go to changing -in more ways than many- after giving birth mamas.

Being tired comes with the territory of our super busy lifestyles. Much like intimacy comes with the territory of marriage. The beautiful thing is, an increase in intimacy can lead to an increase in energy – so we all win!

Sex is a natural and necessary part of any marriage. Along with strengthening the bond between you and your spouse, you release hormones that induce relaxed, stress-free feelings, powerful natural pain relievers, and an overall positive mood. Who can complain about that?

Aside from those who have experienced serious sexual traumas, women who are well connected with their spouse tend to respond to life better.

So how do you get from barely having a spark to coaxing a constantly lit flame?

Well, I’m no expert but when I realized that the “no sex zone” leaves the door wide open for temptation, I changed the climate of my marriage in a heart beat. Here’s my five best tips…

& if you don’t need them, share ’em with a sista that does. 🙂

5 Ways to get out of the No-Sex Zone

Pull Yourself together girl!

Self care is the order of the day! When you look good, you feel good and you make everyone around you feel good. Men are visual creatures, and while I know we have a million and one things on our “to-do” list, YOU should be one of them! Be honest with yourself if you’ve let yourself go and go get her back! Don’t let your love life suffer from a lack of self love. Get back into the swing of lavishing yourself with affection and it’s sure to spill over on your loved one.

Exercise

“Exercise releases endorphins, endorphins make you happy!” I’m quoting one of those hollywood blondes but homegirl was right. Not only do endorphins make you happy, exercise increases blood flow to some key areas while rejuvenating your stamina.

I found that waking up early (when I used to wake up early) to exercise made my days much smoother and more energetic so I had more “get up and go” when Hubz got home in the evenings. Another trick is to get in a nice calorie burner after the kids lay down to give you an evening energy boost.
Commit to Bedtime

Is your spouse competing with your career…? Kids? Social calendar? Yep, been there! Like back when I wrote this post. We’ve even helped a few couples who’s only major problem in the bedroom is the kids. Try committing to a time when the children MUST be in bed every night and don’t compromise unless it’s absolutely necessary. Between 8-9pm works for us and it gives us a few hours at night to just enjoy each others’ company.

Along with a bedtime for the children, create a time when work and electronics must go off. Nothing is more important than building a strong bond with your spouse. Too many couples are competing with each others phones and tablets. Get back into each others’ presence. I promise, that’s the only “likes” you need at the end of the day.

[tweetthis display_mode=”box”]Don’t get stuck on social media and forget that your spouse should “like” you too.[/tweetthis]

Open Up

Over 70% of women never achieve orgasm in their lives. That’s pure ridiculousness! No wonder they’re calling us “angry” and “emotional”! The real thing is over 70% of men don’t even know that. It’s high time we say something ladies, because as much as they DO know, they DON’T know how to read our minds. Oh happy day when the app for that is invented; but until then, we have to get comfortable letting our men know what works and what doesn’t. Because, let’s be honest, no amount of “tired” or “headache” will keep us away from something if we really want it. You know what they say about a closed mouth.
Get outside of the Box.

If you want different results, you gotta do some thing(s) different. Think outside the box for ways to bring back the excitement you had before. Send a text outside of your normal “pick up a pack of chicken”, or funny animal memes. Leave a note in his lunch bag or wallet. Get creative. Be spontaneous!

It’s easy to forget that we’re wired totally different from our men. Most of us, women, can live without sex – but our men cannot. Which is probably why scripture is really clear on the matter in marriage. Creating an intimate, open and fun environment in your marriage can ensure that the desire is mutual and no one ever feels missed or neglected.

What are some ways you keep the spark of intimacy in your marriage?

October 8, 2015 fatherhood

#ManKave : Finding strength when the world is on your shoulders

I usually stay away from the blog…it’s kinda her thing. But I’ve been in a funk I just couldn’t shake so she suggested I write about it. Hopefully it helps another brotha do better than I’m doing.

Lately I’ve been feeling like a failure, and while I often hear from my Yahya that I’m not (I am so very grateful for her love and confidence in me), most of the time it still doesn’t smother the feeling of letting them down. More so letting myself down.

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October 6, 2015 entrepreneurship

Work Hard, Play Hard: Our pleasure + business date night

When I say we haven’t been on a date in forever, trust me it’s an understatement. As a matter of fact, the last movie we saw in an actual theater was “About Last Night”…how long ago was that? Right.

Every waking moment we have right now is spent taking care of home, kids or business. Those memes about entrepreneurs are true. So imagine being “fam-preneurs” as Hubz likes to say. But really we’re a “couple” entrepreneurs cuz there’s 5 in the family and only 2 of us are working. [The kids don’t count when props are being doled out! Sorry! It’s us against the world Clyde!]

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September 9, 2015 Beauty & Confidence

Your man can’t make you feel pretty. Here’s why…

Pretty is as pretty does?

Nope! Pretty is as pretty believes!

Trust me, I know LOTS of pretty women who do NOT do pretty things.

You know them too. We all do! So why do people say that? Maybe because they don’t realize that truly beautiful people – like the ones who GLOW from the inside out – are beautiful because they believe they are.

I didn’t believe I was for a long time. I didn’t believe it and I didn’t show it. I was always bitter. I was always mean and giving people the “side-eye”…because I didn’t believe I had anything beautiful in me and you know what?

No man could make me see it either.

I remember the night I met my husband, and the first words he ever said to me – “You have the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen!” He said it in such a way that it seemed like seeing me caught him off guard. Thinking back I can remember his sincerity but, in that moment, I was like “who is this guy and who does he think he’s running game on?!”

He couldn’t make me see my beauty. I had to see it for myself.

No one, including your man, can make you feel beautiful. It’s something you have to feel for yourself and see for yourself.

But when you DO see it, it’ll spill over to everyone and everything you touch. Your children will be affected by your belief in yourself. They’ll believe in themselves. Your husband will be motivated and renewed in his confidence to provide for his beautiful woman.

Have you ever seen someone who may not have been very attractive to you but they just had that “something”? That’s inner beauty, and BELIEF in their inner beauty. Nobody can give it to you or make you see it… but you can cultivate it.

It’s easy to put the expectation on our men to make us feel pretty or desirable. And of course they should enhance the feeling but if it’s not already there, anything they give will be wasted energy- because belief is a personal thing.

June 4, 2015 Family

Repost: Marriage Advice from a Chronic Bachelor

It’s funny how when you look back on things you said before, problems you thought you had- you almost admire “the old days”. I posted this one a while back on our old blog but it’s still so relevant I thought I’d share it again. My dad gave us this advice right before we got married. I hope it gives y’all a word. September 4, 2014 We all know that marriage isn’t just a walk through the daisies. As a matter of fact, It can feel worse than walking on hot coals sometimes. I mean, you know when you’ll be done with those coals- 3 more feet to glory- but you don’t always know when the waves on the ocean of marital life will hear that “Peace, Be Still” you’ve been screaming. Promising to spend the rest of your natural life with your “best friend” seems like it will be a breeze in the beginning, I mean, what could go wrong? He “loves” all your unsightly little quirks and you love his -proverbial- “dirty drawers”. (I know y’all have crazy aunties that say that too! Don’t front!) But what happens when that new love flame starts to fizzle and you realize that no, you don’t love picking up his crusty socks-or drawers for that matter. And he really doesn’t think your snore is all that cute? What happens when “I do” turns into “I wish you would!” ?? You stick it out! …

marriage

Losing Myself in Motherhood DID NOT Make Me a Better Mother

Do you feel like you’ve lost yourself? What do you need to get back to you?

…On Letting Go of Control

How are you practicing more “flow” in your daily life?

10 Things to do Right Now, instead of arguing

10 Things to do when you’d rather argue.

What are some things you do in your marriage instead of arguing?

She told the mainstream where they could kiss…

Generational Curses? Break Free!

She defined the power of a bomba$$ WIFE!

What messages did you get from Beyonce’s visual album “Lemonade”?

Cheer each other on

Cut the world off

Hold each other accountable

#WifeLife101: 5 Ways to get out of the No Sex Zone

5 Ways to get out of the No-Sex Zone

Pull Yourself together girl!

Exercise

Commit to Bedtime

Open Up

Get outside of the Box.

What are some ways you keep the spark of intimacy in your marriage?